Coping with Loneliness: Strategies for Connection During the Holidays

When we picture the holidays, one of the most prevalent things we’re likely to imagine are the traditions with our family, the connection with our friends, and the ever-present company of others. Not everyone, however, joins in this feeling of joy during the holiday season. In fact, one study showed that 31% of American adults feel lonelier during the holiday season. Surely, this feeling of loneliness may contribute to the estimated 6% rise in depression during winter.

Factors contributing to holiday loneliness may include social comparisons, as people observe seemingly perfect celebrations on social media, creating a sense of inadequacy. Additionally, the emphasis on family and togetherness can accentuate the absence of loved ones, especially for those who have experienced loss or are geographically separated from family and friends. The pressure to conform to societal expectations of merriment may also lead individuals to hide their true emotions, fostering a sense of disconnection. 

Looking for ways to combat feelings of loneliness between your depression therapy sessions? Check out three ways to connect with others this holiday season.

Strategy #1: Reach Out and Plan Meaningful Gatherings:

The holidays are typically categorized by togetherness, and if you’re not finding that togetherness naturally, it may be time to create it yourself! Try these tips on ways to reach out to coordinate meaningful gatherings: 

1. Host a Potluck Dinner or Brunch: Organize a potluck dinner or brunch where each attendee contributes a dish.

2. Coordinate a Group Activity or Outing: Plan a group activity or outing that aligns with shared interests. This could be a nature hike, a visit to a museum, a holiday-themed crafting session, or a game night.

3. Organize a Gift Exchange or Secret Santa: Implement a gift exchange or Secret Santa among friends, family, or colleagues.

4. Plan a Volunteer Event Together: Give back to the community by organizing a volunteer event as a group. Whether it's serving meals at a local shelter, participating in a charity run, or helping with a community cleanup, coming together for a common cause strengthens bonds while making a positive impact. 

Strategy #2: Join Online Support Systems:

Many American adults say they struggle to make friends. If you find yourself struggling to find ways to meet and engage with people, an online support system may be a great fit for you! Check out these online options for group support: 

1. Meetup.com: Meetup is a platform that connects people with shared interests, and it often hosts various support groups. Search for virtual support groups related to loneliness or mental health during the holidays. Many organizers plan specific events around the holiday season to provide a sense of community and support.

2. NAMI Online Support Groups: The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has multiple online, free support groups for people across America. These run year-round.

3. 7 Cups: 7 Cups is an online mental health support platform that offers both one-on-one chats with trained listeners and group support forums. While it might not have specific "holiday-themed" groups, joining forums related to loneliness, stress, or holiday blues can provide a supportive community during the holiday season.

4. Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA): The ADAA offers online support groups for anxiety and depression. While not holiday-specific, these groups can provide valuable support and coping strategies during the holiday season. We recommend this on top of depression therapy!

Strategy #3: Give Back through Volunteering

Volunteering is an excellent way to feel connected to both your community and to others. Check out four different ways you can volunteer this holiday season:

1. Local Nonprofit Organizations: Contact local nonprofit organizations in your community. Many organizations, such as food banks, shelters, and community centers, are often in need of volunteers.

2. Online Volunteer Platforms: Explore online platforms that connect volunteers with opportunities. Websites like VolunteerMatch, Idealist, or All for Good allow you to search for virtual or local volunteer opportunities based on your interests and skills. You might find opportunities to help with remote tasks, mentorship programs, or virtual events.

3. Community Events and Festivals: Check for upcoming community events, festivals, or local projects that require volunteer support. Events like neighborhood cleanups, holiday celebrations, or charity runs often rely on volunteers to ensure their success. 

4. Senior Centers or Hospitals: Reach out to local senior centers or hospitals to inquire about volunteer opportunities. Many seniors appreciate companionship and assistance, especially during the holidays. 

In conclusion, planning gatherings, attending virtual support, and volunteering are three ways to reduce the feeling of loneliness this holiday season. If you need to talk to someone, we’re here for you. At My Time Counseling, we specialize in depression therapy. Reach out to us today to see what we’re about!